Hearing the Voice of the Child in Family Mediation

When parents split up, children are often left on the side-lines. Some parents fight for sole custody and control, while others believe they protect their children from distress by not talking to them about separation or divorce. But children understand far more than adults imagine. Under the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child 1989, children of sufficient age and maturity have the right to be consulted on decisions that affect their lives and express their own views and wishes. When children and young people are asked whether they want be heard, the overwhelming majority want to talk and be listened to, but they do not know where to turn.

Accredited family mediators with additional training in talking with children and young people whose parents are taking part in mediation offer them opportunities to talk with a professional safely and in confidence, except where a child is in need of safeguarding. A key finding by researchers at the University of Exeter is that ‘having your voice heard as a young person in parental mediation is empowering and cathartic, bringing mental health and well-being benefits’ (University of Exeter Report and Key Findings, March 2022).

ChiM – children in mediation – is a carefully staged process that may be arranged in different ways according to the family’s circumstances and culture, the age of the child and other considerations. This webinar will consider the pre-conditions for offering ChiM, such as joint parental consent, and discuss experience and outcomes in practice, quoting feedback from young people and their parents.